Welcome to the November installment of our Unmasked Monthly Musing! This time, we’re diving deep into a topic that’s all too familiar for many of us – the trap of comparison. It’s something we’ve all faced, especially when we’re putting ourselves out there and creating online programs. It’s easy to look at others and feel like we’re falling short, some may even be ready to give up, but today, our host, Dr. Hayley Kelly, is here to guide us through this challenging terrain.
In this conversation, Dr. Hayley explores the detrimental effects of comparison, from feelings of inadequacy and imposter syndrome to anxiety and self-doubt. But it’s not all doom and gloom! She introduces us to powerful concepts from “The Gap and The Gain,” a transformative book by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy. These concepts help us shift our focus from where we think we should be (the gap) to how far we’ve come (the gain).
**Key Takeaways:**
1. **Beware of the Comparison Trap** (00:02:15): We’ve all been there – comparing ourselves to others and feeling like we’re falling short. Dr. Hayley shares how this can lead to feelings of inadequacy, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and self-doubt, often stifling our creativity and productivity.
2. **Understanding The Gap and The Gain** (00:08:20): Dr. Hayley introduces us to “The Gap and The Gain,” a book by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy. The book talks about the gap – the space between where we are now and our goals, and the gain – the progress we’ve made from where we started.
3. **Celebrating the Gain** (00:14:22): Instead of focusing on the gap, let’s celebrate our gains, no matter how small. It’s about finding gratitude in our achievements and using them to fuel our journey forward.
4. **Reframing Unmet Goals** (00:20:10 – 00:24:48): Didn’t meet a goal? That’s okay! It’s not a failure but an opportunity to reflect, grow, and reassess. Remember, it’s about the journey, not just the outcome. Let’s celebrate our victories, big and small, and learn from our unachieved goals.
5. **Embrace Being a Lifelong Learner** (00:27:37 – 00:31:55): It’s okay not to know everything. In fact, being the “dumbest” person in the room can open up opportunities for learning, collaboration, and innovation.
6. **Your Future Self as Your Guide** (00:32:14 – 00:36:16): Imagine your future self. Where do you want to be? Use this vision to guide your progress and pull you forward. This concept, known as future pacing, can serve as our compass, giving direction and focus to our energy.
From understanding the trap of comparison to celebrating our gains and using our future self as a guiding light, we’ve explored transformative concepts that can fuel our growth and success. Remember, it’s not about being the “smartest” in the room, but about being open to learning, collaboration, and innovation. So, the next time you feel like you’re ready to give up, come back to this episode, reflect on these insights, and remember – your journey is unique, and every step forward, no matter how small, is a victory worth celebrating.
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